Hi, internet. I am finding I don't have any energy lately, and can't seem to get excited about anything or finish anything I have started. I need a little boost--can you help me out?
I'm not depressed, I'm getting enough sleep, and there's nothing physically wrong with me, so we can rule all that out. I wonder if I just put so much effort for so long into having a baby that I don't know what to do with myself now that the newtlet is here and he's healthy and adorable and everything's kind of awesomely good?
Everything's kind of awesomely good, that is, except for how the house is a mess, and there's a big pile of unopened mail by the door, and I owe everyone I know a phone call, and nothing is getting done, and I spend way too many of my evenings watching bad tv. Everything except for that. It's not that having a healthy baby is a let-down, not at all. I think I need to re-learn how to function in the world, though.
So internet, what do you do when you need a little revving up? The only things I can think of are pretty banal--changing my hair color, learning to golf, that sort of thing. Surely you've got some better ideas? I don't really want to learn to golf.
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- Howdy, I'm Newt. After three miscarriages and a lost twin, I was lucky enough to welcome a real live baby in January of 2009. Although we are now experts in managing the emotional and physical terrors of miscarriage, Mr. Newt and I don't know shit from shinola when it comes to real live babies. We are hoping to enjoy a nice long learning curve.
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- 9/07 Blighted Ovum, D&C
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9 comments:
You need a vacation. Take the newtlet to G&G's and you and the hubs go away for one night. Or two:) ORRR go away for a night with a girlfriend and stay in a hotel. When I did that, I came home a new woman.
The mail and the unreturned phone calls sound SO familiar - I think that's systemic depression (but not psychological), and I definitely have it too (sans baby, so I'm guessing it's not post-partum?). If you're not hypothyroid (that's my go-to right now), then I would hazard there's another reason your metabolism is too low. I realize this is an annoying suggestion, but maybe Pilates or some sort of vigorous workout video (or a wii???), or a short hard run in the morning, a swim, something like that. Raises endorphins and whatnot.
I don't know that this has anything to do with having a healthy baby vs. trying to have a healthy baby. I have had the same issues and never had any fertility, etc. issues.
It's not depression, as you say. But it's sort of a funk. I'm not sure when mine started but my kid will be two years old next month and it's still going on.
No advice for you. Just thought you'd want to know that I think this happens to a lot of moms. There just is not enough time in the day. And even when there is...well, I don't know, I think it's easy to lose yourself a bit once you become a mother.
I listen to the Enchanted soundtrack. I do. Like, once a week at least.
Music. Belle and Sebastian or whatever else makes you inexplicably happy. And flowers. If I get flowers, it makes me want to tidy up around them. Sometimes it's all I need to get the ball rolling.
the only thing that got me out of the funk was my to-do list... every day i put ONE thing on it and did that one thing every day for a week, then the next week i added one more item and did that consistently... and eventually i got mostly caught up... well as caught up as you can be when you are married with child(ren). lol
its all about the transition and finding a way to reward and measure yourself. me... i'm a "scratch it off my list" feel good kind of gal... so go with what you've been aching to get done and go with it. :) (even if it is catching up on all those DVR'd bad TV shows)
I do very well if I have a list and a schedule. Whether it's for grocery shopping or stuff around the house. It gives a sense of accomplishment when I can cross off "laundry" or "wash kitchen floor". And if I don't have a list at the store I 1)forget something 2)come home with $50 worth of extras I found throughout the store. LOL.
As for the schedule, if I plan in my head that I will sort through the huge mail basket today at 2pm then there is a better shot of me doing it than if I had just said "I have to sort through the mail soon".
And I'm big on the reward system...if I fold and put away all the laundry after it's washed then I will make a milkshake or have two glasses of wine tonight :)
I read magazines that talk about doing whatever I need to do. House is a mess? Read Real Simple. Out of shape? Fitness or Self. Hearing about nifty ways to do boring things inspires me to try them.
Doing something physical usually pulls me out of a funk. When I'm pissed, I'll go outside and start hacking at weeds. Or if I'm stressed, I'll take the dog to the beach. I find TV and internet make me wallow in my isolation too much, so I would recommend kicking the habit down a notch. Of course, that's completely hypocritical of me, so feel free to ignore :).
And misfit has a point about thyroid - pregnancy can wreak havoc on a tired thyroid, so even if you didn't have problems before the kiddo, maybe it's time to get tested?
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